Last two years my life has been a complete mess, and everything came to a head over the summer when I told my DH that I thought we should split up. A lot of it was to do with the fact that he has changed enormously and sometimes I feel like I do not know him anymore.
I had tried and tried to put things right and I had simply had enough.
He was devastated and broke down, and said he would do anything to keep us together, as despite his problems, I know he loves me very very much.
Over the two years the respect and admiration I had for someone else slowly turned to something deeper. I tried even harder to work at my marriage and in the end cut contact with this man as I knew it could only get messy. He is also married.
(i never did anything, but thought about it).
DH and I are still together and I do care about him very much. The thought of hurting him tears me apart. But the great love I had for him has simply gone, and I no longer think I am the same person anymore.
We don't argue, never really did, but I know I am very quiet and withdrawn.
The children are more settled and to them, are so happy we didn't split up. Most of the other problems are more manageable, but I just feel hollow and sad.
I miss the OP dreadfully, allthough I do see him around, but that just hurts. I keep waiting for it to get better and on the surface everybody thinks I am OK now. But inside I am still such a mess. It feels like it will never get better and I don't want to feel like this anymore.
We can't move to get away from OP and it wouldn't change how I feel about DH.
Sometimes I just want to be on my own, with DC's, but can't bear the thought of breaking everybodies hearts. We are all so close a sa a family, but don't want mine to be broken any more. Can only do this post for now. Don't think anyone can help but have no-one to talk to in RL at the moment.
Have posted about it before but it is not getting any easier.
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lostatsea · 20/10/2008 16:38
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