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Any good advice??

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kite · 18/10/2008 19:03

Hi,

I have recently found out we are expecting our second baby next year, we are delighted and very excited . I have a bit of a problem both of us don't really get on very will with the in-laws. We had a falling out after our first baby was born and it is a very strained relationship since that time. We are not fighting or anything but we have very little to do with each other - the next time we will all meet is Christmas.

I am wondering about the Christening, I am concerned about it as the last time it ended in a row with MIL, DH & SIL. I was gone home at this stage thank god but I was very upset that the problems they had with each other could not have been left until another day!! So this time I am thinking of having just immediate family from both sides. I'm thinking grandparents, sisters and brothers and their partners & not having anyone else.The last christening we had 50+.

I am afraid I will upset people by doing this but it is obvious we are not as close as we once were and I'm trying to get out of it as handy as I can this time seeing as the last one ended up desperate!! DH has an aunt, uncle,their 2 sons and partners who go to all occasions in the family and I am afraid I will be upsetting them but I really want it low key. what would you do - any advice??

Thanks

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AuntyJ · 18/10/2008 20:58

For DD christening we had 50+ people partly because my mother organised it and wanted to show off her precious first grandchild.
This time round for DS it will be just close family and friends a buffet at home.
We have explained we only want a small do this time and those concerned have understood.
I would explain to them your reasons why you want a small celebration. I'm sure they will understand.

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kite · 18/10/2008 21:32

Thank you for that AuntyJ,

They are aware of what happened and I'm still very close to the aunt & uncle so I think I will just tell them my reasons, like you said I am sure they will understand as they were very upset it happened at the time as well.
thank you for your reply