A long story cut short is that my xh walked out on us (me and then 15 mo ds) 4 1/2 months ago. He left for (no surprised here...) a woman 10 yrs younger and with no kids. Same old story...
He has flitted back and forth between us for the past 3 months - in fact last week he was with me, and now he is back with her!
Honestly, I have seen the light. He will never change, and cited a reason for not being with me as me 'making' him spend time with ds . She is welcome to him.
But I do have a problem with the way I have been villified in all this. I understand that xh HAS to paint me in a bad light to his new gf. otherwise how can he justify walking out on his family?
But his famly have been AWFUL. Really nasty. Pasting over facebook (so our mutual friends see this) how happy they are they are together, and how upset they were whenever me and xh were trying to work things out; writing me out of the family with in a week (when me and xh were actually still together). I could go on, but I wont. They have been an awful set of inlaws - I used to have to ring her a week before xh's birthday to remind her to send a card, otherwise she wouldnt! I am well rid of them.
But of course ds will have contact with them, and I am finding it very hard to leave this all lying.
So, I was thinking of contacting x sil (whose dh did the same thing to her, but they are back together) and explaining my story. And I was thinking of contacting ow and asking if she doesnt question the reaction of his family, or the way he walked out on a family.
The reason I am saying this now and not earlier is that they have pasted all over fb how delighted they are that xh has chosen ow. All of mine and xh's mutual friends have seen it and are disgusted, if not surpised, by their behaviour. My friends and family find it very upsetting.
Is it worth doing? So far I have taken all of this lying down. I havent reacted, havent messed xh about, havent contacted ow or ANYTHING. But I really feel they are taking the pi55 now.
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ratbunny · 17/10/2008 08:26
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