update on husband

[amanda6]

hi there everyone. thanks for your replies to my horrible situation regarding my husband and marriage. He did go and see the other woman at the weekend and still not seen me or the girls. He picked them up saturday am till bedtime then off he went to see her! I still love my husband and want to make this work. I'm going crazy here of being completely helpless in everything i say and do, he will not change his mind. Not sure if long term he will regret as he hasn't given it a chance. He knows I want to make it work and knows how I feel but still says 'It feels right at the moment to do this' it's the only thing he has that makes him happy' . He still has alot of debt problems to sort out and I've arranged to meet him either thursay night or Friday when I haven't got the children. Any ideas what I should say to him to make him reconsider?
Amanda

[alipiggie]

amanda6, don't beat yourself over him. I know it's easy to say, but I've been in your position. It eat me away inside and made me lose all self-confidence. When I finally realized that he didn't want me or the boys I became a far stronger person.

My advice, start living your life without him, plan on him not coming back. Take each day as it comes and take any help that friends/ family offer you. Take time out for you every week that's important and something I've only just got back. And whatever you do, don't let him make you suffer financially because he's got financial worries. My Ex said he couldn't afford to pay me alimony yet I discovered today that the new love of his life who's living in what was our family home - well he's now paying for her health insurance too. Great.

So be strong, cry when you need to, scream curse, but above all remember You are worth SO MUCH MORE. Hugs from someone who knows exactly what you're going through.