Hi, this will probably sound ridiculous, but for some reason it has really upset me.
I am separated from my husband and have been with my current partner for around 10 months or so. He is a really nice guy and is a breath of fresh air after a few disasters I have had recently, especially as he has stuck with me since I developed anxiety issues in the summer.
To my point, he used to be very complimentary and was really good at reassuring me about stuff and generally being very supportive (although I am extremely supportive to him too). Anyway, now the compliments have dried up, not a biggie, but I realise that since i have been ill I am not as confident in my looks, have lost alot of weight and feel old, he knows this. Anyway, the other night, he was really looking at me and I laughed and told him to stop cos I looked old, and he said "well you are in your 30s". Great I thought "so I look old then?" I ask foolishly and again, he says something about that's the way life is. Then compounds this by saying that he has noticed the grey in my hair (yes i know it needs dying).
I know it's not much, but it comes along with other things, which basically add up to a general air of "can't-be-arsed". I suppose I notice these things because I am very senisitive to other people's feelings and would never make remarks like that to anyone. So is it jut me, do I have to accept that this is just a general bloke thing? Or could there more to it? When it goes from "you're beautiful", to "yes I did notice your grey", is there any hope?
I suppose it doesn't help that my self confidence is zero as my anxiety is holding me back from doing some things at the mo. I keep thinking that I wouldn't blame him if he ditched me and went for someone who is prettier and far more fun than I can be.
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greeneyedgirl · 13/10/2008 10:18
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