Was in the mood last night, as usual DH wasnt but mumbled something about having sex today instead. We had the frequent conversation about why I have to always instigate sex etc and finally he revealed the real reason why he only ever wants sex with me occasionally- hes wanking off about 4 times a week!
I have absolutely no issues with him doing this, its normal and I would never try and stop him. However, getting a bit sick of him having sex with himself as it were, rather than with me! He says its quicker and less hassle just to pleasure himself rather than have sex with me. I can see what he means, after a long day at work and the daily exhaustion that comes with having a dd, it must be easier for him to just whip it out when hes in the shower rather than go through foreplay with me etc.
When I do instigate sex, most of the time, he will "oblige" but I want him to actibely want to him sex with me. He said hes going to try and cut down on all the wanking in the hope he'll want to have more sex with me.
Feel in all my previous relationships I was desired and my partners always wanted to have regular sex with me even though they were pleauring themselves too! In a way I feel cheated, just want to have a sexually satisfing relationship with my own husband.
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DH "pleasuring" himself 4 times a week- no wonder he never wants sex.
ratherremainanon · 11/10/2008 09:16
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