bit of background.
SIL (dh's sister) has never really liked me. It didn't really become apparent until we had a row concerning ds about 5 years ago (have posted about this before) but even before this I think there were signs she never really liked me. Suttle things like I didn't get invited to her hen weekend, even though she was bridesmaid at my wedding...
But after this row we never really had a relationship. If she calls to speak to dh she doesn't really speak to me if I answer the phone, we don't see each other apart from once a year or so so there really is nothing there iyswim. It was only recently that dh said to me that she never liked me from the start (we've been together for 13 years).
I have nothing against her, I do think she can be a bit shallow and selfish and although she has trates I don't like I don't dislike her iyswim.
Anyway on Sunday she rang my dh to tell him that she and her dh have been ttc for about 18 months and that they've been told they have to have IVF in order to potentially have a baby. Having been through the experience of not being able to conceive I really feel for her, and wouldn't wish what she is going through on my worst enemy. Things are made slightly more difficult for her by the fact that my ILs don't approve of IVF, so although they obviously haven't voiced their disapproval she knows their feelings and knows that they don't approve of what she is doing so most likely won't feel that she can rely on them for support.
A part of me wants to speak to her and say that I have an inkling of what she is going through, and although I personally haven't been down the IVF route, (my personal choice though and has no bearing on what other people do imo) I am here if she needs any support/someone to talk to.
But given she hates me is she just going to see that as intrusion? Should I just keep my mouth shut and never mention it?
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do I offer support to my SIL even though she hates me? Or do I say nothing and keep out of it?
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wannaBe · 07/10/2008 17:16
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