really need to off load, have had a dreadful day. I worked this weekend a late shift on saturday and an early sunday, my dp went to work at six last night, life is very hectic. On coming home from work I had loads to do, housework, uniforms, homework, bath kids etc, I finally stopped doing stuff at half past nine. Got up this morning saw it was bright and text my sil who has just had ababy and asked her if she fancied going for a walk. TBH i felt I needed a break, dp was in bed from the night shift and I'd done loads of houseowrk on the sunday so it didn't need doing. Came back from walk and asked sil if she wanted to come and see my new conservatory (which someone had given us) and have lunch. I knew dp would be up but didn't think it would be a problem. Anyway he basically had a huge rant at me knowing she was there about how lazy i am and how i was supposed to be cleaning the windows of the conservatory that morning. When i told him i hadn't sat down until 9.30 the night before he called me a iar as I had posted ona forum at 9.10, which was actually 10.10. He buggered off to get some 'basics' which i incidently hadn't done (was going to do it later-no urgency) and sil despite being gobsmacked at what she had just witnessed offered to help me clean the conservatory. TBH I was all for not doing it, had a 'sod you' head on...but she said it wasn't worth the grief and would be happt to help. So inbetween him leaving and coming back, we both cleaned the windows and woodowkr, I cleaned out the pets, and swept the leaves in my garden. When he came back he started ranting again about how it hadn't been done properly and how shit the windows were which my sil had done.... even when I told him my sil had helped he carried on. understandably she left and I am mortfified, embaressed and very, very feckin angry. I picked the kids up from school and went to the aprk as I didn't want to see him before he went to work. I honestly feel sick, he rants at me loads but to do it in front of someone like that and blatantly disregard what she had done was such appalling behaviour...oh I just don't know what to say. My sil is fine with me (btw she is my brothers wife, not dp's sister) I rang her and apologised and she said its not my fault but understandably pissed of wwith my dp, more than that though she is upset for me.
I feel like its the straw that broke the camels back, we are bnoth working incredibly hard at the moment and with four children it really isn't easy. I try and achieve a balance between work, family and rest but dp never sits down and then moans about it constantly. I think I've had enough, life is draining enough without the added worry of putting up with him
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