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something happened today.. anyone else had similar experience?

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newmummy27 · 02/10/2008 16:48

this has NEVER happened to me before, but i think i just experienced love at first sight. nothing will ever happen, he was a stranger and i will never see him again..
I was waiting at the traffic lights in my car and a man was crossing the road to the island in the middle. i couldnt stop looking at him, he didnt see me, but my whole body started to shake and i got a feeling of a rush through my chest. my whole life flashed before me. how weird. i think it was love at first sight and as i say that has NEVER happened to me before and i feel really weird a couple of hours on. has that happened to anyone else? having problems with husband but am not on the look out for anyone or anything like that, it was such a new experience. it felt like i KNEW him and couldnt take my eyes of him.. any comments?

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ChocFudgeCake · 02/10/2008 16:51

mmh, has not happened to me. But I would change route! It is weird.

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Anna8888 · 02/10/2008 16:52

Yes, you are describing what happened when I first set eyes on my DP .

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AnAngelWithin · 02/10/2008 16:52

yep. and then i married him

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Rubyrubyruby · 02/10/2008 16:54

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susia · 02/10/2008 20:21

I once met an actor who was so attractive that I literally couldn't speak and starting shaking! I don't know how much he twigged but he must have known something was up. I was completely struck dumb

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TheInvisibleManDidIt · 02/10/2008 20:31

oh yeah. I met a guy a loooooooong time ago, and the first time he said 'hi' to me felt like I'd been punched in the stomach. Started shaking, couldn't speak...

Had a on-off-onagain relationship for 3 years. We couldn't be apart, but couldn't live together either iyswim. Went our seperate ways.

Still in touch though, through e-mails every couple of months (just saying hi). dh knows- has met him. He was even at our wedding.

Kind of think along rubyruby's lines....

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mou · 02/10/2008 20:36

Happened to me 14 yrs ago in a swimming pool, found out about him but he was married . Fast forward 11 yrs meet him again now i'm married, he is still married but he still has same effect on me but now we are virtually neighbours,. last 3 years very very difficult.
very James Blunt....

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lou33 · 02/10/2008 20:39

the only funny feeling i get when looking at certain men, is in my pants

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MummyAnnabella · 02/10/2008 20:56

this happened me once about 12 years ago - i called for a friend at her student house and her flatmate answered door. i instantly felt a bolt and could hardly speak. it was overwhelming feeling and we both stood there for a min. then friend came out and off we went.

she was more of an acquaintance and i didnt say anything to her. it was the end of term - final year - and i never set eyes on him again. at graduation a few months later she told me her flatmate hadnt stopped talking about me and said he thought it was love at first sight! i told her i had felt something too.

unfortunately there isnt the then i married him happy ending as nothing came of it. we never met again but from time to time i look back and wonder "what if..."

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Bink · 02/10/2008 21:15

This has happened to me lots - sometimes it panned out, sometimes not.

One I fondly remember (it was a "not", by the way) was a music festival outside Edinburgh in - probably - 1978. My friend had homed in on some not terribly (in my eyes) fanciable talent; but then the NTF talent's friend came & joined us - and the friend was so lovely, smiley and clear-eyed & thoughtful, & all tanned from travelling. We only did chatting; I think we were both a bit by our respective friends' homing-in behaviour. Also I think I had some sort of boyf at the time & have always been a bit disapproving of offside flirting.

But after 30 years I still remember he was called Paul.

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boarderb · 02/10/2008 21:17

Susia, was the actor Rufus Sewell? I met him (well, I encountered him, dealt with him I mean) and he kind of instantly electric-fried my brain with his sex-aura. My first thought was that he wasn't a human at all, more a strange alien...it wasn't even handsomeness...just sex power, or summat.

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ButIForgetMyself · 02/10/2008 22:34

It happened to me, with the funeral director when my stepdad died. I thought it may just be that he was ultra-sensitive (paid to be, of course) and I was ultra-vunerable.

Anyway, I started dreaming about him literally every night, and this went on for months. Couldn't get him out of my head. Never did, really. I always had that "what if...." feeling. Used to get palpitations and swoon every time a hearse passed me. It was really quite comical.

Went to another funeral that he "did" recently. Two years after seeing him for the first time, with tears steaming down my face and rather pregnant, he still managed to set those butterflies off.

Of course I love my DP far too much to have ever done anything to jeopardise what we have over what is probably a completely fictionalised (is there such a word?) idea of this funeral man. He's probably a complete shit in real life and not sensitive at all. But he was so... UNDERSTANDING. And calm, and really quite handsome.

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OMaLittle · 02/10/2008 22:34

Yes, with DH, not at first sight, though - about a month into our relationship when we had dinner in Paris. From the moment we met (he was taken), I had always had the feeling boarderb describes, that he wasn't quite human in his amazingness, but this night over dinner I had the bizarre physical sensation - I later described it as physically falling in love. It was totally unrelated to sex - we had already had phenomenal sex at this point. Just like you say - an all-over body shudder.

Subsequently, and embroiled in very happy relationship with DH (then long-distance boyfriend) I too met an actor whose handsomeness rendered me speechless:

have a look

Not my type at all, way too clean cut, and like I said was in v. happy relationship, but asked for his number for my friend (she called, he never called back) and then had to get him to repeat it because I'd totally forgotten to listen. Totally different experience to the love thing, though.

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coolbeans · 03/10/2008 00:14

boarderb - you talking about Rufus Sewell made me smile. He was a really good friend of an exboyf of mine, so I used to know him, before he was really famous, but as he was getting more well known. You're right, he really is very, very charismatic and sexy, (even sitting down over a pint), a very good actor and a nice guy to boot.....

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lilacclaire · 03/10/2008 12:12

Oh yes, was working as a receptionist at the time and some guy came in to use facilities, as he was walking away from the desk, he turned round and we locked eyes (this is in a totally non sexual way btw) and it was if I was struck by an electric bolt, it was the same for him and be both stood there for a couple of seconds in shock (like wtf happened there) ! Then went about normal business lol.
Nothing like that has ever happened since.

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Kally · 03/10/2008 14:36

It happened to me with someone that I already knew. A friend who used to call round for years but I never really 'felt' anything for him as was happily married etc.

Then years passed and me and DH split up and 'he' called by outta nowhere.

He walked cross the garden in the evening and I looked up (I was doing some colouring with DD on the front lawn)...

He walked in slow motion and his hair was soft and shiney and my heart just went straight into my throat and I felt really overcome. He bent down to talk to me then crouched and the heat in my ears and the pounding in my head I couldn't answer him or even hear what he said to me.

I will never forget that 'first time' I 'saw' him. I think that was that feeling you are talking about... (we became lovers and I've never felt like that with anyone)...

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junkcollector · 03/10/2008 15:00

Kally, you should write for Mills and Boon. Great thread. Never had it myself but really want to now.

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ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 03/10/2008 18:45

He is someone from your Soul Group. He may have been a stranger to the "you" you know you are here and now, but your soul recognised him from previous lives. You have probably been knocking around the universe with him for eternity.. it's just the first time you've come across him this time around.

Probably

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ChocFudgeCake · 03/10/2008 21:37

Now I feel very miserable . I'm trying hard to recall, maybe I did experience something like that at some point...

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Fadge · 03/10/2008 21:39

I had something like this happen with my Husband thought it was a load of phooey before that of course, but as soon as I got that whomp in the chest and a sudden feeling of this being "it" I knew we would settle together and marry.
I'm glad others have experienced it too, it's such a powerful feeling.

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susia · 03/10/2008 21:54

boarderb - I don't remember the actor's name. He was playing the lead in a play at the gate in notting hill but later played romeo (of course!) at the RSC. I'd seen him on stage before and just thought he was good looking but in the flesh he was like a god! and I'm not at all a star struck sort of person

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Cryptoprocta · 04/10/2008 20:08

It happened to me with a woman a good few years ago. I approached a sales counter in Rackhams to ask a question. I wasn't really looking at the person on the counter and started talking. Half way through the question I actually looked at her, and I think I stumbled. It was like a punch to the stomach, there was just something about her that made me forget to breathe.

I can't remember what she looked like TBH, but that's because I don't have that sort of memory. I remember that she couldn't help me because she didn't usually work there. I was disappointed, but it was probably for the best. I would have spent hours stalking her otherwise!

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CherryChapstick · 04/10/2008 20:11

I married him, 14 years ago, still can't breathe sometimes when I look at him.

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EnchantedWithEdwardCullen · 04/10/2008 20:20

Yes my DH,

not at first sight because we grew up together in high school, i sat behind him in french in year 7 and never even noticed him, then one day in year eight i borrowed his sharpener and I just fell in love.

I would think about him constantly for 3 years.

We were doing our Art work after school one night in the classroom, and the teacher put the radio on and some cheesy song was on and I just started shaking, I knew he was there in the room with me and I wanted to tell him I loved him so much

I started crying and waited till the end of the evening and ran after him to tell him because I couldn't hold it in any longer... but his mum had already picked him up, i was just running around asking my friend if she has seen him, and burst into tears when I realised he had gone home.

We did get together soon after but in a much more 'normal' way!

Im really glad I didn't catch up with him actually... God knows what I would have said and what he would ahve thought!

(He had loved me since year 8 too, but we were both loners and so shy we never told each other, we never 'saw' anyone else')