Family. Feeling very annoyed.

[BluePenguin]

I have just posted about what happened yesterday with my mum which is sort of connected to this but IMO deserved a thread of its own! anyway it basically explains that yesterday my mum moaned all the way through my sons karate tournament about what time we were leaving, it cost me £30+ in petrol and the car is now completely dry. I have no money to put any petrol in, had to walk to school this morning etc.

Anyway I was annoyed with her anyway for yesterday but this morning she rang and said "will you take me and grandma to crematorium tomorow?". This would cost me another £5 or so in petrol...doesn't sound a lot but I am TOTALLY skint, she knows this. I said "not really, car is dry and I have no money". Truth is, after yesterday I didn't feel like being a taxi again anyway, despite the petrol issues so when she offered me money for petrol I still said no. Point is none of the family bother with me when they have someone elses car, if my auntie is off work etc they wouldn't ask me. Last week I took my grandma to the doctor (cost me another £10 in petrol as its miles away), she did pay for petrol but she also wanted taking to my cousins house, her friends house...I got involved with a road rage dickhead who was intolerant of the fact that I was driving slow because I was lost...I felt like a bloody taxi.

I HATE DRIVING AT THE BEST OF TIMES.

And to top it all off, my grandma said to my mum this morning "I've bought you a birthday card for (my cousins daughter) since you don't get her one". Funny then how my kids never get birthday cards from the majority of the family and those that don't bother...my grandma doesn't then buy them one to make sure they get one.

And...my son is now 9 and she still insists on calling my kids "the big one and the little one" as if they can't remembr their names...in 9 years you still don't remember their names? I don't think so.

All of my cousins kids are favoured over mine. Nobody ever comes to my house or phones me or anything...I don't even get a birthday card off most of them yet I'm expected to drop everything and taxi people around.

Ok I feel a bit guilty that they can't get to crematorium (uncle died 2 years ago so grandmas son...current flowers are apparantly dead) but they could get there at weekend.

Am I being a brat ranting about nothing?

[BagelBird]

Sounds like you are stressed to the hilt, worried about money, fed up of being taken for granted, annoyed your relatives let you down re: kids names/birthdays etc and generally need to sit down with a cuppa and chocolate
Hope you are feeling a little better about it all soon. You rant away here. Better online and get it out of your system than let it smoulder and turn into a family feud.
Big HUG xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[BluePenguin]

Thanks I just get so stressed out with it all. Like in the holidays when the kids are off school the family have it all planned out for me...my mum will phone and say "grandma said you cant take the kids down on tuesday, I told grandad you'd be going on friday...what day are you coming here?" and all the time its petrol...petrol...petrol...not to mention the fact that I can never just relax and do my own thing.

[littlewoman]

It does sound as though you are incredibly stressed, it's been a busy weekend for you. You know there is absolutely nothing wrong with telling your grandma how you feel when she can't take time to remember your children's names. You don't have to say it unkindly, and it's better than harbouring the resentment. It may be that she thinks it's a cute nickname for them (I call my children 'the bigs' and 'the smalls' too - I had them in two lots. If they hated being called that, the only way I would know is if they told me. Of course, I would be amazed if they told me, but then I'd have to get over it and refer to them properly! It's habit more than anything). Just another pov. She probably doesn't know it upsets you