Very brief version-
BIL doesn't speak to PIL (for last year or so cut them off completely) for reasons we can't quite fathom (stemming from teenage angst and rows years ago). PIL are bit bonkers but no worse than others you hear about- we see a lot of them with the kids- always there to help etc. BIL refuses to see this positive side of them.
He is getting married. Has bought things to a head. PIL are heartbroken and devastated it has come to this. Will miss one of the biggest dyas of his life. They have v small family so only them and his aunt and us that could be invited. We and aunt will be invited, his parents wont be.
BIL says he doesn't like them (or love them) or trust them so doesn't want them there or in his life.
DP feels horrible about it and very torn. Thinks his brother is being judgemental and wants to 'punish' the parents that he loves.
Should we go to the wedding? BIL wants us to very much, but we feel maybe we should make a point that he is being soooo unreasonable and stay away?
OK, so not that quick? But would you go??? Really appreciate any opinions or advice!!!
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Quick moral dilema: need opinions!
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yosammitysam · 21/06/2008 16:00
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