sorry nemo just noticed your thread when i was starting mine. hope things work out for you.
i need some one to tell me weather i am over reacting. dp got no fathers day card, mainly because he doesnt act much like a father so i dont see why he should be treat like one, but also coz dd1 like to make cards i was expecting dp to be out yesterday but he stayed in on the pc all day long (as per usual), so we didnt get the chance to make one.
anyway he didnt seem to bothered but he went on a bit. later i asked him to change dd2's nappy while i had a cigerette. he shouted at me for handing her over properly, then complained that he needed a wee. so i said 'oh just leave it ill do it myself, i didnt think that it would be asking much to expect you to change your own daughters nappy!! okay now i that that is over reacting but he never does it.
on he up the stairs he was muttering about the card so i shouted 'what makes you think you deserve a card you do nothing for me and the dc's' (that and he never gets me anhything for mothers day, last year i didnt even get a card for my birthday, never mind mothers day!!) so he shouted back that i was 'f*cking useless' so i lost my temper and asked to leave.
when he did go to leave he tried to take dd2 with him, so i went to call my dad to come and help me get dd2 off him. he took my phone off me coz its in his name. and refused to leave. so i took dd2 and left.
now i have got back he has gone. i have no doubt that he will come back once the pubs are closed. but do i take him back???
i know its over reacting to throw him out just over today, but its over a lot more than that. he never helps in the house, he never does anything for the kids and help very little financially. in fact for the last 8 days at least he has done nothing but sit on the pc all day looking at holidays we cant afford. he never gets out of bed before noon, he is incapable of putting anything away after himself, he is constantly shouting at the dds, and nasty and aggressive towards me.
he calls me lazy, fat, scruffy, bad mother and tells me that i dont love my kids. my house is far from tidy i admit that but does that give him the right to treat me this eay? he says that once we move to a bigger place (that will be his house in his name) thing will be better, as i will have more storage and the house will be easier to clean (no mention of him pulling his weight though, which is all that i need) but i dont belive this.
is it just me or this not how a relationship should feel?
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another one who has kicked dp out on fathers day!!!!
shoulditrytomakeitwork · 15/06/2008 19:17
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