I just need some advice please.My partner and I have been together now for about 4yrs and engaged for 2yrs. The children I slowly let him get to know because the children and I have been hurt in the past.The father of the children comes over to see them every 2 wks.My problem is that we don't go anywhere as a family and i get so of other families that say oh we went on holiday in the half term.We don't officially live together he has own place but spends more time at mine.We do shopping together which is the highlight of the kids week at least they get to see him.He works every day finishes at lunchtime on Sunday but spends that time sorting his house out,cleaning it etc....So he comes home here to mine at about 7ish so the kids get a quick hello and a cuddle from him and kids go up to have wash and bed.When his mother was alive she used to tell him to slow down not work to much life is too short but he just never listened to her.When we discuss him spending time with us he says we need the money.I asked him what was more important and he never answered.I am not asking for expensive holidays just a week in a caravan site somewhere would b nice, kids have never been on holiday.I hate being stuck in at the weekend not going anywhere we can go out just the 3 of us but it is not the same I can't drive I can't afford the bus we go to park sometimes and i do try and make it fun here but it isn't the same.When he proposed to me it was lovely but i think we are never going to actually get married and I get very broody but for some reason when I try to discuss this with him he changes the subject.Is all this normal I get very confused on one hand I am a single mum with 2 kids and on the other a family.He wont take days of work for things like school plays, he can't afford to.I get upset when I see fathers tenderly looking at their children and wanting to do anything for them.He doesn't show his emmotions I saw it when his mum died. I love him and we have some of the same values and interests but please tell me whether this is normal.thank you
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