My dp lives 2 hours away. He's a bit of a workacholic. Its IT so their hours are long and weird as well. He has a little boy from previous marriage that he cares for most of the time. He also has a lot of overhead so is often hard-up (same here) so sometimes I pay for his fare to see me which I don't mind and understand. We hadn't been able to see each other for a few week as he was working extra, and I couldn't take time off of work. No biggie.
He came down on Teusday, that was after he's been telling me since previous Friday he was coming but couldn't make it, then couldn't make it again, etc etc... finally Teusday we got together. As always he was lovely.
I don't know much about his private life as we live in different towns but he is a very sweet and most of the travelling effort is put in by him. (I don't have an ex here to leave my child with so usually its easier he come to me)(he has brought his ds to us before). Yesterday he told me he should have loved to come the weekend (he has the whole weekend off) but was skint, so I nipped to the bank and put money to his account (I said I would) for the fare. He then called midday and told me he has to go and pick up his new aupair guy from London and would call me later. He called again at 5' and said he can't make it, he's not even home yet from London. (As he works a lot he needs an aupair that he and his ex pay for jointly).
I got up early and cycled to the bank and put in cash that I didn't really have... I feel so f'ing annoyed. I feel he must have known about this before so why bother. Am I being unreasonable? He says he'll be here tomorrow but gut feeling says he won't. Why bother I say to myself.. I am constantly in a waiting position (since Friday last) and its getting to me. We talk long term and he says he adores and loves me but all this cagey 'unable to stick to plans' behaviour of late is getting me down. Whenever I talk about it he puts me at ease and I end up wondering why I moan, LOL. I'm not some spring chicken with no experience with men, and he always assures me theres nothing to worry about, but I just feel so sh*t about this today. I've cooked him lovely food and got a bottle of wine cooling... Ugh.... another lonely Saturday night. I can't go there as have no car... and dd has invited her friend to sleep over... do I sound unreasonable to be upset?
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Feel so let down and don't know if I'm being foolish
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Kally · 14/06/2008 17:55
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