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anyone good friends with their ex, to the point that they would go to see a gig abroad with them?

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mamalovesmojitos · 13/06/2008 21:40

i'm dying to see radiohead play this summer. ex (dd's dad) also loves them. he mentioned today that they are playing a festival in france and would i like to go?

i would. but i know that is probably a bit weird???

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Bluestocking · 13/06/2008 21:42

I don't know. Do you both have new partners? What kind of festival is it - could you end up sharing a tent?

mamalovesmojitos · 13/06/2008 21:59

neither of us have partners at the mo. it would be a tent situation i'd say but we could just bring our own. era life is so grey isn't it?

it would be a getting back together trip. at the same time though i certainly wouldn't consider it if i had a boyfriend. thanks for replying!

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Bluestocking · 13/06/2008 22:02

A "getting back together trip" - do you mean you are contemplating reviving the relationship?

mamalovesmojitos · 13/06/2008 22:05

shit shit it would NOT be a getting back together trip.

freudian slip? or the half bottle of wine i have ingested?

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CarGirl · 13/06/2008 22:06

yes I would but only if dh was okay about it.

mamalovesmojitos · 13/06/2008 22:20

thanks cargirl. i suppose i'm so used to reading or hearing about exes at each other's throats. its unusual to talk about them getting on well.

i think i may go after all.

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Chequers · 13/06/2008 22:22

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Bluestocking · 13/06/2008 22:22

Mmm. Do you think you would continue to get on well after a couple of hot and irritating days at a French festival? Are you sure you don't want to get back together with him?

SmugColditz · 13/06/2008 22:23

.If .you .c..a..n. .h.a..ck. .it..,. .....go .f..o..r. i.t..

CarGirl · 13/06/2008 22:25

People are always surprised when my dh says he think my ex is a nice guy. I am very glad we have a positive relationship still it makes co-parenting much easier!

turquoise · 13/06/2008 22:26

If you get on, and you know neither of you has a hidden agenda, then go for it.

I am pretty good mates with my ex now, in fact he has invited me to stay at his girlfriend's place in the US this summer . Wouldn't turn a hair at going to a gig with him - would't have wanted to share a tent with him even when we were together though.

madamez · 13/06/2008 22:28

I remember going to Amsterdam with an ex about a week after we split up, and that was OK (though we both smoked far too much dope to squabble). If you're sure that both of you feel the same way about rekindling/not rekindling your couplehood then go for it: it's nice to be friends with XPs, but if one of you is longing to get back together and the other is not, there will be clumsy passes made and lots of drunken snivelling.

mamalovesmojitos · 13/06/2008 22:42

they are all positive messages. it's only a day-long fest as well with one night stay so even if it did go belly-up we'd be home the next day.

yes it is nice for dd if we get on well cargirl.

turqoise (my fave colour) are you going to visit?

madamez i love the idea of avoiding tension by smoking! though as it is illegal in gay paris we may not have that option...

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Hassled · 13/06/2008 22:45

Not weird at all. Ex-DH and I are very good friends, he's the person I always go to in a crisis, he goes drinking with DH, and if I didn't loathe Radiohead with an unreasonable passion I would go to France to see them with him. Go for it!

Blondilocks · 13/06/2008 22:52

I get on ok with my ex most of the time, even to the point where we went out drinking together on xmas eve! However, he can be extremely irritating & although I could possibly stand a day at a gig I would have to be in a tent down the field from him I think!

Each to their own though. I suppose the only time it wouldn't be OK would be if a new OH wasn't happy with it, otherwise it's totally up to you!

littlewoman · 14/06/2008 01:02

Could go with xh1 (if I could stand his crap jokes all the way to France and back), but xh2 I'd throw overboard the ferry. It really depends on the ex-husband

littlewoman · 14/06/2008 01:03

But hey a free gig - I'd stand the crap jokes!

ButterflyMcQueen · 14/06/2008 01:15

i would end up doing the deed

dont youbthink you will?

queenrollo · 14/06/2008 07:52

i get on well with my ex, the only reason i wouldn't do this sort of thing now is because we both have new partners and i know it would make my dp uncomfortable.
But if i was single i would probably go, especially as it's only for one day. But as others have said, as long as it is as friends and neither one of you has hopes of repairing the relationship.......

CatharsisItIs · 14/06/2008 10:53

I would, xP and I are both passionate about the music we like and it would be good to share gigs with him. He still wants us to get back together though so in my case, boundaries would have to be firmly drawn before we went. Neither of us have new partners, if I did I'd be going with my new partner no doubt!

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