...asking so many questions?
DH has had an emotional affair over the past 6 months - I had my suspicions but only actually found out about a month ago - and I'm torturing myself by asking him questions about it. Which he is answering on the whole but somethings (like me wanting to know about what was said in a call he made at the beginning of Jan to OW) he says he can't remember and I start to read into it and drive myself mad with wondering
At my request he has given me his mobile bills and I have gone through them with a fine tooth comb, compared with bank statements etc and quizzed him endlessly to try and get things straight in my head.
The thing is I am gradually realising that the more questions I ask the more new ones I come up with and I'm on the verge of becoming obessed with knowing everything. Which I realise is not healthy and not helping us move on.
I hate being like this and I can sense that I am pushing him away with my constant questions.
The affair was a symptom of problems in our marriage and the pressure of the traumatic birth of our first child which we are working through with a counsellor.
I know a few of you have been in this situation and just wondered how you coped with the felings of insecurity and needing to know.
I really want to make my marriage work and I'm scared that instead I'm going to make it worse, whilst at the same time feling so angry at him for not just trying harder to remember/be honest with me
Feel like I am loosing the plot
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:( how do I stop.....
MyHeadIsSpinning · 12/06/2008 09:10
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