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[Mumblesmummy]

My Dp and I have been staying with my family whilst moving house (as we had a few problems with the change over and had to put our stuff in storage). It's been at a bad time because I'm pregnant and hormonal and my family are going through our first ever rough patch. I've only been with DP for ten months but we're VERY together and we're getting married and we're the perfect match.

The thing is, my once lovely family are snapping at me constantly which is getting me down and not helping with the hormones. I get quite upset and seem down all the time, plus I'd like some support now I'm pregnant but they're more interested in my sister who is having twins. They can be incredibly snappy and nasty towards me for no reason.

The thing is, we're due to move into our new house 20th December, but we're staying with my mum xmas eve night and xmas night, possible boxing night too. My DP now thinks we've out stayed our welcome despite the fact we stay in our room a lot when we're in, and most of the time we're out anyway. He thinks rather than putting off moving into the new house until 27th Dec, we should move in before xmas and stay there over xmas to avoid snipes, snaps and rows, as he HATES people upsetting me unnecessarily when I'm having a difficult pregnancy anyway (bleeding, pain, sciatica, struggling with work etc).

I really want to stay there over xmas as it's tradition and I don't want to upset them, but I don't want to ruin my DPs xmas- our first xmas together, and I too am very tired of all the snapping and trying to start arguments with me. He's very supportive and I know he'll do whatever I want, but I feel like I'm stuck now because they're being so weird with us.

A lot of it is because my sister had IVF whilst I was first pregnant and so she didn't speak to me for 3 months, and now she acts like because she tried for her babies they're very important, where as mine was conceived first month of trying so not important. It's all very obvious, and she's also one of these people who stays in and lays in bed all day and gets my mum and dad to run round for her all day long because she's pregnant.

I'm over the arguments and everything now, but I'm totally stuck on the xmas thing. Do I risk our xmas or not?

[leoandmummy]

how about moving in to new home and staying over at dp's one of the nights maybe christmas eve and leaving christmas night and going home together and pretending nothing happened. the space between moving in and christmas day might relieve tension. try to think of it as one day celebrating your own way once your back home.. how exciting moving into your first 'family' home..