Good news

[Monkeytrousers]

Hullo, Just an update to say thanks to all those who helped on here through the hard times me and DP have had this year. Things are much much better now and we seemed to have turned a corner. I am certainly not worrying every day about me and DS's future.

I was really prepared to walk out many times but didn't because of DS - instead I insisted he move out, which he didn't do - and which made things quite unbearable for a long time. But things truely looking better now. Thanks girls

[expatinscotland]

SO glad to hear this, MT!

You've been through hell and I'm glad things are coming round in a way where you can all be happy.

[madamez]

Oh, jolly good. Wasn't particularly aware of your troubles but glad to see they are getting better.

[anorak]

Onwards and upwards...best wishes for the future MT

[Monkeytrousers]

Cheers Expat, you have been a doll!

[expatinscotland]

It's just good to see he decided to make an effort with your relationship and you were in a place where you could both work on it.

Long may it continue, because there was obviously a lot of love there.

[Monkeytrousers]

It was a chapter 6("Loves assasin: self justfication in marriage") in this book that helped him get his head round it all. It basically points out all the strategies that people who have fucked up and hurt people try to implement to excuse themselves - which makes things go from bad to worse.

he bought it for other reasons, I read that chapter first and asked him to read it, To which he said "no", I said "fuck you then" and stormed off only to come back later and he's read it all and had an epiphany. I very nearly fucked that one up!

[expatinscotland]

But you didn't!

And it sounds like he doesn't want to anymore.

Compared to where you were last year, I'd see that's progress!

[Monkeytrousers]

Cheers expat. It's all a bit trivial compared to what you have been trhough lately. How you doing?

[expatinscotland]

Trivial?!

Um, MT, your partnership with the man who fathered your child and whom you love truly is ANYTHING but trivial!

This is huge, great news to hear.

I've been better, bad insomnia, but another expat who is repatriated is selling me her SAD lamp so I'm pleased .

[Monkeytrousers]

Good, I'm glad. We do go through soem trials, all of us. Thank fuck for MN!

[Monkeytrousers]

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