Seriously worried about what will happen next.

[mistrusting]

I have changed my name just in case.
I work with a woman who I have considered to be a friend of mine for a few years now in total there are 7 of us working in this area.It has come to my attention through someone who we both know mutually that she has been spreading lots of really nasty lies about me.In general she has told my colleagues lots of lies -she told us has a brother in the forces who is a bodyguard part time who she hasnt seen for a while in a bid to get additional holiday time off when no one else was able to get time off.The time off was granted but she was actually wanting to go away out of school holiday season she was never meeting him he doesnt even exist I have it on good authority.She has told us her sons dad is in prison and on day release tried to kidnap her son and assaulted him.The other day the son told me he was seeing his dad now he was out and liked him a lot- she told us he is on the run!
She has told this person who we know mutually that I am on report at work for assaulting her and this is what has made this person feel that they should let me know what is being said about me.Apparantely I am also having marriage problems, that my husband isnt looking for another job that I am making it up.She has also told her that I am disliked at work because of contract issues which I admit there are issues but it wasnt down to me and everyone has been lovely and understanding about it no one has a problem with me.
I am seriously worried about what she will say next I am dreading going to work. On friday she tried to turn me against another colleague by saying a big fat lie but i checked it for myself discreetly and as it was she tripped herself up before the day was out.I have given her no reason to hate me she is nice to my face.When she has told me about her terminally ill dad, her hero brother, her sons dad, her own medical mini drama I have been so supportive I like to think I am a nice person.If someone looks nice I will tell them I remember peoples birthdays,if anoyone goes somewhere special I will try to remember to ask how it went that is the kind of person I am and I hope people can see that.On the face of it she seems nice too I am worried to say anything in case it comes back at me but I am so angry she has been rude about my family nasty about all of us even my kids who have never done anything to anyone.She has even told me she has cancelled some driving lessons she was having as she is skint I felt sorry for her.I found out this was a lie as I saw her getting out of the car the other day and she made some excuse up and gave me the skint spiel.At this point I knew for definate she was lying and she stood looking at me telling me and if I hadnt have known it was a lie I wouldnt have been able to tell.
Sorry this is long I needed to get it out.

[paros]

Jeez. I dont know what to say . Im sure someone will be along to give advice but I didnt want you to think no one was interested in helping you. Best of luck .

[ArmadilloDaMan]

She is telling so many lies I would guess you are not the only one to find out.

IME compulsive liars do it for attention. The best way to deal with them is not to give them any. Everytime she tells you something adopt an off-hand manner and say something non-commital like 'oh' or 'that;s nice' and don't get drawn in any further.

This person she has told these lies too obv doesn't believe her so don't let it worry you.

I hate compulsive liars, they have caused so many people so much misery and hurt.

It hurts to have your trust betrayed. But let the onyl person she hurts be herself.

Stand back, don't confront (feeds attention seeking behaviour) and just distance yourself from her.

[WanderingTrolley]

She doesn't sound very well.

Unfortunately, in supporting her, you might be encouraging her.

Steer well clear of this person. Be bright, breezy and polite, and try never to be alone with her. Do not enter into conversations - be very busy.

Sooner or later - if she hasn't already - she will trip herself up with the other people you work with.

[ALdc]

Withdraw from a friendly relationship immediately. Don t allow her to have any information about you whatsoever, even innocent stuff. Toxic people - as she sounds - can find a way to twist ANYTHING.

If you possibly can call her on all her lies - probably not the stuff about her family, but anything she says about you or other work colleagues. Try looking confused when she says it and gently correct her - try to make sure you have a witness, when you do. I am terrible at confrontation but I did this with a bully at work and she did calm down and stop telling quite such outrageous lies. Don t know if she carried on behind my back though.

I know so much how you feel when a work situation is like this. Great website for this sort of thing here www.bullyonline.org