I was really looking for some of the mumsneteers whos partners had had an affair, but that they had tried to get their relationship back on track.
I know my views are a bit black and white. I always thought that because of my black and white personality, trust was very important and that not only the affair, but the lies aswell, would mean it would be over for me.
But it is easy for me to say this, becasue it has never happened to me.
He has not moved out. They are there trying to work things out.
But my overwhelming urge is to query how she will ever trust him again.
but I know that this is notappropriate. It may be the way I feel, but it is not how she feels. So I need to ask quations and be supportive of how SHE FEELS and what SHE wants to do.
But I don't know enough about it, to understand, or to be able to relate to 'where she is' in her thinking.
This is a genuine question. Could people please explain to me 'where she is' and what her rational is ?
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My friends dh had an affair with her bf. I can't get to grips with her desire to try again. Help me understand.
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Oblomov · 14/12/2007 11:11
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