hello, have written on here before about how weird exH is. he acts like a stupid, spoilt child all the time and I think he sees DD as a 'novlety' rather than an actual human child who needs looking after etc. he has never hurt her (that I know of) but can do stupid things like take her to stables and let her brush the horse's leg without a 2nd thought about if the horse kicks her etc (she is 21 months nearly).
After Tuesday & Wednesday I really have had enough. Tuesday he had her while I was at work because his mum was down, she lives in La La land most of the time anyway. I finish work at half 5. He text to ask if he can have her til half 6, I said not really as I needed to take her somehwere after work. He said, ok how about he drops her to me at 6. I said no, i finish at half 5 and i need her here for then. at half 5 i get a call saying, i'm stuck in traffic and he turns up at half 6!!! (wouldnt be surprised if he did this on purpose) I agreed to meet up with him and his parents on Weds (my day off) for lunch so they could see DD. Weds a.m. I get up early as need to do trial run to new nanny's house (my auntie died who used to have DD for me) so got up stupidly early on my day off, DD was still asleep and Mum was at home anyway, so trial run was done ok. Got home, DD woke up and I got her ready as I needed to go into town, had already told exH this. Was on park and ride and had txt after txt, what time will you finish, how long will you be, what are you doingm where are you now etc etc. txt bsck on park and ride, so he called and had a go at me saying, my parents don't get to see DD, i dont get to see DD as your parents always take her out (he has motorbike and has to borrow a car to take her anywhere), i said its not my fault they dont bother to come down and its also my day off so i want to speand some time with her and have stuff to do, he said you get to see her all the time (i work full time and by time i get home shes ready for bed), he started to get nasty and started to imply he would go for custody so i told him to speak to me thru my solicitor (whom I have emailed re this) and turned off phone, by the time we got to town i was so wound up that i stayed on bus and went home and txt to say, fine, he could have it his way and to tell me immediately where to meet him and his parents, he then said no no, im sorry i dont want solicitors involved, you go into town mum and dad will come daown another time, i told him too late, tell me where to meet now. which we did.
i'm REALLY REALLY fed up with this, i have seriously thought about changing my and DD names and moving away so he cannot find us. i hate that i cannot do anything without him breathing down my neck or having to know my every move and threatening me with DD if he cant get his own way. Solicitor originally said DD not old enough to stay overnight with him until she is at least 3 and i'm DREADING her getting to that age so much, I do not trust him to look after her properly anyway and his behaviour is erratic, a few weks ago he rang me in tears to say he was on anti depressants and was having mood swings and had smashed up his flat!
Please help, I dont know if its legal for me to move and nottell him, there is no court order stopping him seeing her, but really I think she's better off without, I know he's her dad but he's an idiot and I just want him to leave us alone. Please can anyone help?
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Need some advice on ex having access to DD PLEASE HELP
JellyNump · 25/11/2007 00:11
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