I would be so grateful for some advice please and I will try to keep it short.
My partner and I have been together 5 years,we have two boys aged 2yrs and 10 months.
Around the time my 2yr old was conceived I had a one night stand with my ex. My partner and I were on the verge of splitting up, his choice not mine, and to make myself feel better I selfishly found comfort in my ex.
I had been trying for a baby with my partner but because of various problems (endometriosis,fibroids) i was told that it was very unlikely i would ever conceive naturally.
I found out i was pregnant when i was five months into the pregnancy.My partner and i were getting on much much better and there was no way i even entertained the idea that my DS1 wasn't his...until now.
When DS1 was around 18 months he lost alot of weight and instead of looking like a baby he started looking more like a little boy... he also started to look like my ex.
For a while i kept it to myself until i knew i was sure and then a couple of months ago i told my partner the truth, my reasoning was that my son has the right to know the truth and i can't lie to him about who his father is.
I was petrified that my partner was going to leave especially as i hadn't ever confessed to sleeping with my ex but he said he loves DS1 to bits and nothing will ever change that. He also said that he knows we were going through a really rough time back then and doesn't hold a grudge i cheated because it happened a long time ago, he said he still loves me.
My DS1 adores my partner, calls him daddy and his name is on his birth certificate as his father. I am trying to get the money together for a DNA test to prove one way or another but the thing is im so scared of what all this is going to do to my son if it comes back that his daddy isn't who he thinks it is...i'm so worried, all i ever wanted was children of my own and i've blown it.
i'd appreciate any advice please.
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His Dad isn't his Dad....What do I do? has anyone else been there?
paisley · 21/08/2007 23:01
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