Petty niggles and arguments

[julezboo]

they are driving me mad!!!

Litrally all DP does in this house is the bins and the dishes, he goes to work of course but he thinks I have it easy.

Yesterday I had a horrible day DS (5) went to bed very late the night before (he refuses to sleep) so spent the day whining, thwoing toys, refusing to tidy up his toys. Basically ignoring me all day.

Baby ds has just discovered I can leave the room or walk away from him, I only do it when he's happily playing but the min i move more than a meter away he screams the place down, plus he's teething at the moment. I was also trying to get the house back to normal after a weekend of decorating/ being out. I was close to tears when DP came home.

This morning he annouced he is gonna be like other men from now on and not help with anything because no matter what he does I still get in a mood.

(for the record I am due AF any day now!)

So I told him fine, I will stop cooking his meals, washing his clothes, getting his clothes ready in the morning, pairing his socks, he can do all his things himself I will look after me and the kids.

We always have niggly arguments, the main thing that bothers me is the sarcasm. For example if i leave the butter out he says "if only there was a big white thing in the corner of the kitchen where we could keep things cold" instead of just saying " ju, you've left the butter out".

He is a brilliant dad, going through a rough patch at the moment hes down and low, I seem to be getting the brunt of it. I threatened to walk last week, I would never do it I dont want to lose him even if he is an arse sometimes.

I gave him the silent treatment this morning, which is childish I know but I cant stand any more sarcasm and niggles!! I know everyone probably has them.

Im not even sure why Im posting this here but it feels good to get it out!!

[Meeely2]

sounds to me like AF has got her evil claws into you - and if you and dh have been together a long time, he will sense this and react accordingly i.e. being a dick to wind you up.....

Get a cuppa, stick tele on, watch neighbours and try to chill out.

My DH does a lot round the house, because apparently I can't or don't do it properly. I used to get offended at this, but SOD IT, if he is so anal to have to have things done a certain way then bloody let him! So thats how it is now - i do things when he's not there, else he does it, end of.

don't fret the little things, it really isn;t worth it.

[skidoodle]

'For example if i leave the butter out he says "if only there was a big white thing in the corner of the kitchen where we could keep things cold"'

well at least he's funny when he's being an arse.

poor you, you sound at the end of your tether - tired, overwhelmed, AF on the way.

do what meeely says, and maybe when you're relaxed and not so overwrought have a chat with him about how hard you're finding things and maybe think of some suggestions for ways he could make things a bit easier. But not a fight, not accusations, just one spouse to another "help, I'm struggling a little bit, that's why I forget what the white thing in the corner is for"