Sorry, I know there are a lot of threads like this but I am having a lot of difficulty reconciling this situation with what is going on in my head.
I have been married for 5 yrs, have 2 children and things have been going wrong in my marriage for about a year at least. We had a lot of pressure on us last year for various reasons which caused me to become a bit distant. My DH interpreted this that I was interested in someone else and started snooping on my computer activity, generally making life hell for me. He wouldn't come to bed at night and I used to wake up and find him watching me in a creepy fashion. He would also deliberately wake me up at night and he made life very difficult for me, even though I assured him there was nobody else and explained the reasons why I had been distant. I have never been unfaithful to him so he has no reason to be suspicious.
Since then I feel I've stopped loving him as much as I used to. Recently he announced that he knows his behaviour was unreasonable...but he has said this far too late and the wedge has now been driven.
Then last week he said the main thing that keeps him with me now is how I look -- this, after 7 years together - nice(!) So now I feel really peed off about that and wonder what the point of this is.
I feel so angry with him all the time and I don't see how I will ever be able to get close to him again. But he is a really good dad and parenting comes more naturally to him than it does to me and my children would be so upset if we broke up - they love him so much.
What I want to know is, is there a way to solve this and for us to stay together now that I feel that I've stopped loving him as much or in the same way? I want to feel the way I did before but I just don't. And I don't know if I could ever change that now. Is there a way?
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I feel like I want out of my marriage
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catchtwentytwo · 13/08/2007 12:05
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