Been single parent for nearly 2 yrs now and earlier in the year met a really great guy. I have DS x 2 and he has one DS. We have spent the Summer together and apart from the usual sibling rivalry we get on great and want to try living together once kids back at school.
Sounds pretty much a no brainer apart from eldest DS does have problems with 'change' and jealousy now having to share me not only with DP but also his son. DS has told me he doesn't want DP or his DS to live with us and that he 'hates' DP. Not sure if this is because of jealousy thing or because he has not been disciplined by a male for so long and is resenting DP taking this role.
Also! My parents don't approve of the whole situation saying that it is effecting the children. My mother hasn't really been talking to me since I started seeing this guy. They do not approve of DP (he doesn't fit the protocol of what they would envisage for me!)
Whole situation was made worse after my parents took my DS's overnight a few weeks ago and (I think) milked them for info and now they are even more against the whole relationship. They insist I am making a huge mistake but they can't see that eldest DS can sometimes use all this to his advantage. He reported all sorts of nonsense to his gps and consequently they think DSs are going to be scarred by this whole thing.
So if he moves in I will obviously have to tell parents and they are going to be up in arms about it. It would be easier if I wasn't so close to them and they have helped me a lot through the separation/divorce, so now I feel torn between keeping the peace (seeking their approval) and risking missing out on a chance with DP.
Admittedly we could just see each other at weekends but after spending the Summer with him I think I would miss him too much. Sad I know!!
Anyone have any advice please or been in similar situation?
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Dilemma - do I let him move in although it will cause ructions with my parents...
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e2moo · 13/08/2007 09:51
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