DP and I have been together for over a year, I got the impression early on that he has been brought up to see his mother running around doing everything for the family whilst his dad watches TV and relaxes. DP did try this on with me but I put my foot down, he's seemed better since and said he never wanted to be like his father so is glad that I said something.
Anyway last night we were discussing babies and during conversation he said he would expect the mother to do all night feeds as the bloke would be working whilst the mum has the luxury of maternity leave to sit around the house all day. I told him that personally I would expect the night feeds to be shared no matter who was working and he said that would be selfish of the mother.
I also put the suggestion across that the mother might want to go back to work so who would do the night feeds then? he replied that by that time the baby would be sleeping all the way through I said not neccessarily, she might want to go back after a few weeks...he said this would be incredibly selfish of her and he wouldn't want to spend his life with a woman who was so selfish and unfit to call herself a mother!!
He went on to say that equality doesnt work and never will, life isnt fair and the sooner "she" realised that the better for the family unity.
He really came across as a sexist pig and I'm not sure I want to go down this road. Was it just the way it was worded do you think or is he being a twat?
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Does DP have a point? Am I being too hard on him?
PatrickStarFish · 12/08/2007 09:15
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