Opinions desired..when to say something.
Briefly, A female friend of mine is in a troubled relationship with a chap. I have met him v. briefly. She has moved country to be with him, moved in to his, things fine for about a year..then he went 'cold'. No time for her, no 'chat'...lots of disregarding behaviours. He, apparently has a history of this in relationships. No children involved on either side. She is flummoxed..been away for a month back home, and now returning, to move in with a buddy of mine, whilst she tries to 'sort out' what is 'wrong' with 'partner'.
Meanwhile, said buddy tells me that partner received a police caution for downloading indecent images of children some years ago. He knows this as mutual friend was in situ when the police arrived at their accommodation, and interviewed separatley all of those in flat. He was the only male with a pc. His 'guilt' isn't questioned.
Now our mutual friend is returning, oblivious to all of this, and always has been. She is tortouring herself with her internal debates about 'what went wrong'. She is still trying to save the relationship. My buddy and me 'know' it is sunk, and it is awful to witness her struggles. My friend says we never say anthing. Ever. I'm not so sure.
Opinions requested. Not a comforatble answer. Just, what would you do? Am I being overly interfering??
thanks.
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A delicate dilemna
Pan · 10/08/2007 20:09
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