I left my abusive ex husband back in October 2003 and after a couple of months ended up getting with a very good male friend, who I now live with. We ended up having to move from Cornwall as the ex husband was getting increasingly more and more abusive towards me. He was granted intitally staying contact for the children and we were to transport them down to Cornwall at the holidays. We did this for the first time in October 2004 and he had them for the week. He was told he wasn't to drink or to have any of the children in his bed. During this time we found out that this was happening. When the children were returned we found that they were covered in poo and wee and they were filthy. On advice from our solicitor we stopped staying visits. He was allowed phone contact, on which he would become abusive to me again, if he got the chance. He would also send me loads of texts. In the end we went to the police about the phone contact and the text and he ended up with a verbal warning from the police. Fast forward the next 2 years where we had a ongoing court battle, where he was first granted supervised visits and now unsupervised staying contact. He was according to the contact order due to have the children next Friday from 10 in the morning until Sunday at 4pm. He ended up calling us last Wednesday saying he was unable to make it as he hadn't passed his driving test and was there anyway we could help. We spoke it over and offered to drive the children down tomorrow to Bristol and his mother pick them up from there and she drove them the rest of the way as we were unable to keep to the orginal dates due to work commitments. So everything seemed fine until last night when I called him to ask if there was anything he wanted to pack for the children and he became abusive to me and then when my partner tried to talk to him to defuse the situation he became abusive towards him. He has started with the allegations that we are not looking after the children properly and all sorts of other stuff, for which within the CAFCASS reports we have had nothing but glowing reports. I really don't think I can handle this again as it was too stressful the last time we went through it. What would you do? and have you got any advice? TIA.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.