DS is 7, very nearly 8, the usual cheeky, willfull child, with a fairly short attention span, who needs to be asked several times to do things.
DH is nearly 45, not into sport or kick-abouts, likes to read, and chill-out. Has spent the last 2 years working away Monday - Friday, and weekends are becoming much of a trial for me, as my 'boys' just don't seem to get on together, not helped by the fact that dh won't do lots of the stuff that I think daddies should (sudden silly rolling about on the floor together, off to the park for a kick-about etc). He would do model building and stuff, but ds doesn't get heavily into that sort of thing, and dh tends to concentrate on how ds is doing things wrong.
I have tried to point this out to dh, who takes it as bad criticism, so it can make things worse.
DS now just sees dh as a grumpy bloke.
I am REALLY hoping that dh's next contract will allow him to live at home for a while, but need to re-build their relationship. Apart from anything else, I think ds needs more male role-modelling in his life.
DH loves ds, but can't get into understanding him, and is unable to find any childishness in himself (had a pretty unhappy childhood, seems to have erased it from his memory).
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clumsymum · 01/08/2007 16:41
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