Dumped....why does it feel so awful?

[Rocklover]

Only been seeing him for 2 months, so why do I feel so bloody crap? Hideous empty hole in my guts, making me feel sick.

Says he wants to see me again now, but am so confused about everything, just want to feel nothing. Also scared about my impendimg divorce proceedings, so not feeling so hot anyway!!

Am rubbish at relationships, how do I get past this?

[electra]

I think it's really unfair when people do this, end it - and then want to see you again. Sorry you feel crap - have you got something you can do with your friends to take your mind of it?

[DaddyJ]

Oh nooo! So sorry, Rocklover!!

And it's not a clean break either?
They are the worst. Don't let it drag on, though!

That's a real shame, you sounded so happy.

[Rocklover]

Have been feeling a little low recently (mainly about the divorce and stuff), so felt a little insecure, but didn't say anything to him. Stupidly I wrote some stuff down on Myspace (not specifically about him), sort of like really sad poetry (yes the shame!!).

Anyway, despite the fact he is not on Myspace anymore he managed to read them and concluded that I was so unhappy with him he couldn't continue the relationship. Got slightly annoyed that he was not listening to me telling him that my ramblings really didn't mean anything. But hey ho, have to admit I was totally pathetic and cringe worthy.

I was happy when he said we should meet up again, but now I am worried about it because I will now be very paranoid that it will happen again....argghhh!

[DaddyJ]

Oh, I see. He is a sensitive man, isn't he?
Or do you think he used the Myspace ramblings as an excuse?
Not likely if he wants to meet up again.

In other words: this relationship is far from over. Good luck!
(and in future come to Mumsnet for sad ramblings )

[Rocklover]

I don't know if he used them as an excuse, after he dumped me over the phone (nice), I texted him, just clarifying that He wanted no further contact and to just reitertae that I was a little upset etc.

He answered saying how he thought about me all the time, that he still loved me etc. But when we spoke on Sat, he was saying other things like, we don't see ecah other enough etc etc. So, to be honest I fully expect him to change his mind about meeting up as we are giving each other "space" at the moment.

I am never going to understand men.

[DaddyJ]

Tbh, I struggle to understand him, too.

Let's hope he makes more sense next time you seem him.