My DP's brother and his lovely long term girlfriend got engaged yesterday and I am happy for them but its thrown up these weird, irrational emotions.
*I do worry that their wedding will be better or overshadow ours - this is horrible I know but there we are. And I know a wedding is just the beginning of a marriage and that in the end the smaller the better and it doesn't matter but I am 23 and excited. She is thinner and prettier than me and I just feel like everyone will be comparing us. And there are long standing issues with DP's parents because they feel our wedding is too extravagant and I can picture DP's mum going on about why their wedding is better.
*I don't have any siblings and I am fine with that and now its a bit weird thinking that my children will have them as their auntie/uncle. And she has sisters she is close to and DP and his brother are not hugely close and I feel like I will spend my life in this tiny family unit (me, DP, child) and they won't have lots of nice cousins and aunties and uncles around like I do. Which is so ridiculous, but honestly I feel so upset thinking of it.
*Oh and vaguely related the proposal was really romantic and DP is not a particularly romantic person and last night I tried to explain to him that a bit of romance would be nice. He will do anything for me, buy anything for me, but spontinaity or even getting hints is beyond him. And I know I should be grateful and its not the worst thing in the world saying I want x and him buying it, but just once I wish he would plan something for me or buy me flowers without ringing me a billion times to check it was ok and to ask where to go to buy it and how much it should be etc. But thats men right?!!
I don't know why I feel like this, because I do really like DP's brother and girlfriend and they are a fab couple but I don't know I feel like this will impact on me in a bad way. Neurotic and selfish and ridiculous.
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BIL getting engaged has really affected me - talk some sense into me please
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smurfgirl · 22/07/2007 17:03
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