Half siblings and a very difficult situation...

[macdoodle]

Don't know if anyone recalls my situation so will recap in a nutshell...
H and I seperated after his affair last year, the OW was/is obsessed with him and pursued him with something bordering on lunacy, he played his part by lying and deceiving both of us...unfortunately she got what she wanted and had his baby last week ....he has had little contact with her last few months and says it is over with her and wants us back...we have one DD nearly 6 and I am pregnant with no 2 due end Dec....
He has seen baby and seems will have some realtionship with it (and obviously with OW unavoidably)....so our relationship issues aside....
He has said today he feel he needs to tell DD about baby (she is very bright and observant we live in relatively small town and people talk)....and would also like her to meet it
Emotionally I don't want this to happen, rationally I really don't know what is best...she is so excited about my new baby, knows somewhat about affair but would love dad to come home...
So questions for the panel - when and how is the right time to tell her - him alone ??(my feeling his mess to sort out but might be easier for her if I am there)...does she really need to meet baby now (a newborn) to what benefit...one thing I know I do not want OW within 100 miles of my DC (she is immature self centred and has shown a frightening lack of concern for my DD so far this whole mess)...likewise would guess she doesn't want me near her child not that I want anything to do with it anyway....
This mess just ets worse now involving my DD and no doubt will hurt and confuse her

[PenelopePitstops]

macdoodle its probbaly for the best that you tell her now as she will pick up on it, and the sooner you tell her the better. SHe will have time to get used to it and when she is older will just think it was always that way, rather than a big secret being kept from her. You can explain it however you see fit. If she knows that daddy isnt at home etc, perhaps you could explain it that way.

Its a messy situation but you are probably best to be honest with the facts, also make sure you and H are singing from same hymn sheet so as not to confuse her further.