For an age now OH and I have had probs. I fell preg 4mths after getting together, even though was on the pill and so we had DD and have since had DS. We will have been together for 4 years in Sept and just feeling pretty sad about it all.
We have always had problems. He just is a typical bloke and expects EVERYTHING done for him, which was ok pre-kids but now I have so much to do and sometimes he has to wait which he doesn't like doing. Don't get me wrong he isn't a terrible Dad but he could be alot better. He has never put DS to bed and DD about 10 times if that and sometimes i'd just like a break.
Because we lived in two diff place I sold my house when DD was 10mths old and moved awaya from my sister (only family I have) to be near his job and his family for the benfit of him, us, the kids and his family. I feel as if i've given up everything and sacrificed everything for everyone else and when it comes to a little give and take - everyone is there to take but theres not much giving going on... MIL and FIL had always said they would have kids (and have all other grandkids) and now I asked if they would she said no it would interfere with OTHERS too much!!! GRR! OH did nothing to stand up for our kids or me and it got me thinking.
We never talk, it seems we have nothing in common. He lies quiet alot about stupid things but there has been big things in the past. His mum, dad, brothers, sister and their kids have always came much higher on his priorities than me or the kids. And we have rowed about it before. Fincially I have very little, which was my reason for going back to study and then work so I could support our kids and me and not have to go without.
We, well he brought this house and we moved in, in Feb but he didn't have my name on the mortgage and he is always saying to ppl how it's 'his' house, not ours. When I sold my house part of the profit paid off his loan and paid housekeeping for 6mths as he gave me nothing and paid no bills except he paid the rent... I feel so cheated.
I'm tired of him coming in from work and not even speaking to me. And if he does - which is rare it's whats for tea... or moaning about what had happened at work etc... He shouts at DD and is pretty unfair - I understand she is at THAT testing time atm but even so.
We've been at the stage before when i've packed some stuff to go but he has always promised to change etc... and he does for about two weeks - then it's all back to the usual crap and stuff... nothing really changes. And the fact is he won't change. So the question is do I put up with it all or do I leave?
My sister has said she'll put us up... even though she has 3 children under five and herself in a small three bed house... then with me and my two it would be so crammed... but it's looking more and more and more inviting - just to get away from all the misery here. I just have no one to talk to. He doesn't listen/ignores me or just says i'm being stupid/shouts at me. I just feel stuck here, know no one and am ust at my wits end.
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pol26 · 18/07/2007 12:24
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