I'd been feeling neglected in our relationship for a while. DH has always had a lower sex drive and I also think he's lazy about me getting pleasure (but that's for another post!). For the first time in our 7 year marriage I've had strong feelings for someone else. I confessed to DH feeling terrible and wanting to sort things out, and he then went off and had a fling with someone he was working with (I know her too).
I know he's a good man and a great dad to our 2 DCs, but I feel a revulsion about being able to make a physical relationship with DH again. I know some of this is anger at what he's done (and what I didn't do).
I feel I need some space and time to work out what I actually feel. However he's worried that more space will make things worse, especially since I'll have our two young children for most of the time.
Our plan is that he'll live somewhere nearby until we work things out. Does this sound sensible or is it a mistake to spend time apart? Its really scary but I feel it might be the only way for me to work how we feel and him to realise how serious this is for me. I'm willing to try counselling.
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dazedandconfused · 17/07/2007 13:35
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