have posted on this subject a few times.
dp and i keep arguing about the same thing over and over,ie his chatting to women on online games.
i have always hated computer games for various reasons,but after being with dp for a while i realised he is really into them and i accepted it,and when we moved in together and it became clear that his playing computer games doesnt stop him playing with the kids,doing stuff around the house etc,i didnt let it bother me.
however,when he started playing online games i became concerned because of the 'chat' element,as i dont think that its right to chat online to members of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship.
dp explained that alot of the time he doesnt know what gender the person is in rl,which is fair enough.however,for a while at the end of last year,when i was pregnant,he was chatting to a woman nearly every day,and i saw some of the things she said to him like 'i'm your friend,arent i?'which to me is flirting.when i asked dp about this woman though,he would get annoyed with me and say they only ever chatted about the game and he didnt tell anybody anything personal like his name etc.
he just said i was being paranoid,and i tried to put it out of my mind.
now,though,our baby is 4 months old and this issue still gets to me.dp has said that he doesnt flirt and if anybody flirted with him he wouldnt chat to them again.but i,personally,would see him chatting regularly to a particular woman as cheating.it doesnt matter what they are chatting about,it would be the fact that he had formed an online relationship with a woman that bothered me.dp thinks this is unreasonable and that it wouldnt be cheating.
i have tried so hard not to care,but i often find myself looking over his shoulder to 'check' who he is talking to,and then he gets pissed off saying that i dont trust him.but how can i trust him when we see things so differently?
i dont know if this issue will ever be resolved,and i'm scared it will be the end of us
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i have tried my best to see this from dp's POV,or to just not care,but i can't change how i feel.
divastrop · 14/07/2007 23:06
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