Ok, need a general opinion of am i being a mug, or what do you make of this sort of thing?
Quick history - dp and i been together for ten years, always been faitful and very trusting. I am not in any way jealous or paranoid (dp agrees!) and he has had many female friends in the past who havn't concerned me at all.
OK, a few days ago for the first time in my life, i read a text on dp's mobile. It bleeped when it was right next to me and pure nosiness made me read it (was not expecting anything like this!).
It said something like, HI x yes i was annoyed with you but its ok now, i did have a good new year. I realise you don't have the time to give me what i want and the time your family need and its not fair on them so it is best we stop seeing each other. See you at work x
After checking all other texts for further evidence of an affair - which there were none of course! i confronted in him in quite an angry way not letting on i'd read the text. Asked him if he had been seeing someone else etc etc. he denied all. Then i told him about text he admitted he'd got friendly with a girl.
Anyway to cut a long story short, he claims they had just been having lunches together and he'd found her useful to confide in about the stress at work because she obviously worked their too and understood more than me. THings got a bit friendly and she started to ask if he was single would he go out with her. he said maybe. she had stopped working at same place as was only a temp but they continued phone calls. Just before xmas he left her a message to cut contact as he was feeling disloyal to me and wishing her a good xmas and new year. The text i read was her first reply since then.
he tells me there was no physical contact etc i have spoken to her and his best friend and all stories match. he has been off sick since before xmas so claims to not have known that she is obvious back on new contract.
if all of the above is true i can cope but i just cant help doubting. why did he never mention her to me if it was all so innocent?
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Anonnnnnnn · 06/01/2007 21:03
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