Got stroppy with DP

[MrsGinger]

I was in the supermarket earlier with DP and my two kids (they're not his), anyway I was pushed for time so asked the kids what they wanted for their lunch, they both said meatballs so I got a tin of meatballs and headed over to the counter. So DP stands there and said "eww meatballs??" so I just said "yeah they like them" so he stands there pulling faces saying "is that all they're having??" so I said yes, with bread or whatever, no time to faff today etc etc...so he asked if I had any spaghetti in, I said "I don't know, why?" so he starts saying "well I was thinking we should get some, I mean...at least boil them some spaghetti up if you're going to give them meatballs, that will be a bit more substantial than just meatballs...

By this time I'm getting pissed off, I wouldn't mind but he doesn't even live with us! and I can't stand being bossed around at the best of times so I ended up getting stroppy and said "well I've not managed to srave them in all the 8 years I've had them so I don't think we need you coming to the rescue of my poor parenting now".

Maybe it was a bit OTT but he did his usual "ooooo" noise which pisses me off no end and went in a strop for the rest of the day.

Now in all honesty, did he have a right to start critising and telling me how to feed my own kids? (bare in mind he's overweight so not exactly a great ambassader for healthy eating) or was I in the right to get narked?

[Dior]

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[pantomimEdam]

Hmmm can see both sides - he's probably just surprised at something he hasn't come across before (tbh I'd always do something with meatballs, in theory). But he was less than diplomatic about it and can see that you were pushed for time and not in the mood for lengthy debates about meal planning.

[TheArmadillo]

Whether or not he was right or wrong about the food he was not right in what he did.

What you choose to feed your children is up to you, and he should not have challenged you over it in front of them. And it sounded as if he was being rather childish in the way he did it as well.

I would have gotten stroppy.

[hoolagirl]

Oh DP does this with me sometimes, not about food but other little annoying things about parenting.
I usually give him a furious look and demand to know if he thinks i am incapable of looking after my own son.
Only do it cos it really pisses me off!

[DetentionGrrrl]

at least he cares what they eat. and you did seem a bit stroppy to be honest.

[StarrmumofRoyalBeautyBright]

A difficult one because it's not actually about the tin of meatballs but about your relationship and his with your children.

If he's likely to become a live in dp then you will have to let him become involved in parenting decisions - and if he doesn't like what you're doing you also have to let him express that. You may even have to consider doing things his way

But the situation you were in was also not one for considered discussions on parenting, so I can quite see why you reacted that way!

[lupo]

would have said the same to dh if he bought ds just a tin of meatballs for lunch, would prob also suggested spaghetti as well, but i think he annoyed you by the how he said it not what he said