Right have changed my name for this because I feel a bit pathetic that I even need to ask for advice on this...
I have been seeing a guy for a little while, we are friends who have become more. We went out last month for a big work night out and had planned for him to come back to mine afterwards (for the first time) but he got way too drunk that night and I sent him home rather than have someone not remember anything. He was really apologetic and said that he was just so shy he started drinking too much to deal with his nerves and turned into an idiot. I accepted that apology and moved on and we saw each other for a couple of hours before christmas and all is fine. Because we've both had busy christmasses with our families (both been married before and both have children) we haven't had a chance to meet up but we have a date for him to come to my house for a dvd and bottle of wine(1) tomorrow. We've emailed every day and texted each other so it's kind of known that this will be the official change from friends to more but he's said he's nervous.
To be honest what works for me generally is a man really taking control and calling the shots bedroom wise. This guy is not like that at all. He's really shy, not too long out of his marriage etc. I really don't want to just jump him (although I think he's be relieved) but not sure how to deal with it. If he was confident and made a move I'd be all superconfident and really go for it, but I think he's a bit shy of making a move. He says he can really talk to me on email/text etc but clams up in person.
I could just jump him and lead him to the bedroom after the film and a bottle of wine, but does anyone have any ideas about how to get him to make the first move? Or any good chat up lines to lighten the mood??
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howtojumphim · 04/01/2007 13:48
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