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OTT all the time

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Vitamin · 03/01/2007 16:47

My partner seems so OTT with everything he does and it's really starting to grate on me .

He's so clumbsy and rough with everything, yesterday for instance he was on the phone and when he'd finished he just flung the phone on the bed (rather than just putting it down like any normal person would) and it bounced off and landed on the floor (bare in mind this is a brand new phone). He did the same with DD's brand new DS, grabbed it, flipped it open roughly, had a play about on it and then snapped it shut and flung it on the sofa where it landed on one of her other toys . He managed to cause £500 worth of damage at work when he broke a car roof he was fiddling with.

It's other OTT behaviour that irritates me too, for instance if he washes his hands he needs to use at least 4 pumps of the soap (whereas anyone else would just use one) and same when he has a shower, he'll use half a bottle of shower gel and of course he can't just use one towel like everyone else, he needs 3, one for his neck and one to dry himself plus one to wrap around himself .

This morning we bought a bottle of orange juice, he decided he wanted to try it which he did and then advised me to try it, I went to it to find that he'd litrally drank half of the bottle .

Around remembrance sunday...most people put loose change into the tub for a poppy, he gathers together £5 and put that in (generous maybe but still illustrates his OTT behaviour).

Grrr it just winds me up, might seem petty to anyone else but it really bugs me, hes the same just when sitting down for instance, he wont just sit down, he'll flop down which has broken the sofa, same with the bed, he can't just lay down, he has to practically jump on the bed and throw himself on it which has knakcered the wooden slats underneath. Even just sitting down he can't just sit on one cussion, he has to sit on an angle which ensures he takes up practically the whole couch.

Sorry I know its petty but he just infuriates me, lately it's everything he does , would any of this annoy you or is it just me being snappy and grumpy?

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RantInEMinor · 03/01/2007 16:58
Hmm
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lemonstartree · 03/01/2007 17:15

how is the rest of your realtionship ? and what is botherung you underneath?

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ginnedupmummykissingsantaclaus · 03/01/2007 17:15

How long have you been together?
Has this stuff always annoyed you or is it just lately.
Is it something else deeper upsetting you - I know if I'm stressed about something the little things dp does that usually I find endearing make me want to kill him!

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lazyemma · 03/01/2007 17:34

"It's other OTT behaviour that irritates me too, for instance if he washes his hands he needs to use at least 4 pumps of the soap (whereas anyone else would just use one)"

I'm sorry - but this made me do a proper belly-laugh.

I think the fact that you have remembered and catalogued all of these misdemeanours does show that you're getting frustrated with him/your relationship generally and so his habits are getting to you more than they usually would. But please, read the sentence I quoted and ask yourself honestly if that sounds like a grievance of any sort of magnitude.

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maycontainstress · 03/01/2007 17:40

Hmm, sounds like you two could do with a bit of space. Could you arrange a girly night with one of your friends just to let off some steam and have some female company? Works wonders for me.

Oh, by the way, my DP is Olympic in his bouncing into bed and landing on the settee, I feel your pain.

Tell him to be more careful with your DD's DS and the phone. I say this to my DP

"Have you ever worked for Mr Grimsdale?"

(You clumsy git, you're like Norman Wisdom in those old movies).

This makes him laugh and think more carefully rather than become Herr Huffy.

Then give him a squeeze, if you can bear it and say, 'you are a little heavy handed huh?'

Hope you feel better about him, go and punch a pillow, another belter for me

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