The very short story - alcoholic, porn and escort addiction.
We've been separated for a couple of months but he's absolutely refusing to believe it's over. I'm bombarded with messages of love, threats to move back into the marital home, suicide. He's told DS that hopefully he'll be back soon. I've been contacted by in-law's telling me how bad he is, he can't cope, can't I just try again, he's had his wake up call? He's told me he's ill, lost weight (I can't see where from!) He's begged me not to start divorce proceedings as this will tip him over the edge. He's an alcoholic, I should be helping not divorcing, etc, etc.
I bought the Freedom Project book last night and can see that he is a classic Persuader (as well as other things). The book is great in that I now understand these are all empty promises and threats but how should I proceed? Should I go NC? How does this work with access to DS? Should he even have access if he's threatening to kill himself? The book says that he could threaten to hurt me or those I love and I'd like to think he wouldn't do that to DS but what if I'm wrong? I've been wrong about a lot of stuff. Or perhaps I shouldn't go NC as this could wind him up more and now I'm wise to his games they don't affect me anyway.
Argh so many questions! Any insights gratefully received.
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Divorcing a Persuader
lanadelray · 24/08/2014 20:59
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