Friendship problems

[Reddeb]

Im living overseas and I've done quite well in meeting people making new friends. There are a couple of friends in particular who have really been a big support for me and helped me settle in. We met regularly for coffee and I felt as if they were my good friends. Just recently one has a job so has been unable to see me as often and I miss her but that's life. The other friend has been pulling away cancelled on me once and since then hasn't responded to suggestions for a catch up. I feel almost heart broken, so ridiculous I know! But the friendship has meant such a lot to me. Is there anything I can do? When I've had similar happen to me in the past asking if I had upset them or something hasn't helped, as they've just said no of course you haven't and the friendship has fizzled out anyway. I don't want to keep pushing if it's unwanted. Is there anything I can do or should I just accept and move on? I know I sound v needy and maybe this is my problem.

[UptheAnty]

Unfortunately this is the problem with being an expat.

You may be genuine & committed to the friendship but many people , sadly, operate on a, Good en ough for now until someone better comes along basis.

I know I sound cynical but I have experienced this often.

Many friendships in expat land are built on sand and there is lots of vulnerability and confusion involved.

Please don't take it personally, I'm sure you are a great person.
I'm sorry this has happened to you.

[Reddeb]

I don't know if it is all down to expat relationships, this has happened to me before when I was in the UK and was upsetting, but I didn't really see we're it was heading. This time I can see what is going on and what the result will be.

[heyday]

Perhaps it was the other friend that was keeping the whole thing going and now that they have other commitments then the dynamics of the group has changed.
Be more casual with this remaining friend, nobody likes overly needy people.
Text her with a low key suggestion to contact you when she fancies a coffee, then leave it at that.
It's time to find new friends and just put this down to experience I'm afraid. Good luck.

[Nulliferous]

Accept, move on.

Friends come and go in everyone's lives. It's not like there is a shortage of people in the world to be friends with. I for one would be happy with fewer