A man I knew in my 20s (20 years ago) has killed himself after having been accused of child sex offences. I suppose we have no way of knowing if he was guilty as the case didnt come to court, but the sheer volume of accusations lends weight to the idea that he was very guilty indeed. The case has made the papers but i don't want to say too much about that side of things.
I knew him via a youth club we both volunteered at so obviously I have the concern that our young people there were put at risk, although all the allegations were much more recent than that so hopefully he was not offending at that time.
I am really concerned though that I was not very nice to him and not just me, no one was nice to him. He had all the attributes of a cool person, intelligent, nice looking, car, cool job, but he was extremely odd - as a young person I percieved him as very creepy, though he never did anything wrong. He used to ask me out but the idea repulsed me and I dont think I made any great effort to hide that. His case reminds me a bit of the Elliot Rodger case in the US.
The mans life was pretty rubbish looking back, but I don't know if we despised him because maybe subconsciously we were suspicious of him, or if maybe it is more the case that the more he was ostracised for being a loser, the more damaged he became, ending up doing these terrible things. Obviously there are loads of other things at play here, but I'm feeling very sad about how he was treated by my friendship group, what became of him and about all those children. How does someone become a child abuser?
Not expecting any real answers, just thinking aloud I guess...
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paula5246 · 02/08/2014 00:34
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