Struggling with understanding "normal"

[Ikeameatballs]

I have been seeing a guy for nearly 3 months now. He's nice to me, after an initial difficult start because I was under loads of work stress we now have great sex.

My difficulties are that I am struggling with what are normal relationship expectations and how I feel about him. I split up with ex-p 18 months ago, went on a few dates over the past 6 months but no proper relationship until this guy. I feel like I have no idea how I should expect him to behave particularly in terms of contact, changing his plans so he can see me etc. I sometimes also get really stressed because he has done something that reminds me of ex-p even though actually it's quite different. Almost like I catastrophise and feel emotions that I should have directed at ex-p? I also seem to have lost track of my own emotions, I like spending time with this man, I like him but I really don't think I love him yet, unless I'm somehow trying to protect myself? But if I don't love him yet then does that mean I should stop seeing him? I feel really confused about the whole thing and only feel secure when I am with him.

[HumblePieMonster]

Perhaps you should step back until you know what you want from a partner?

Reading threads on here will tell you what most people might consider normal or abnormal in a relationship but what really matters is what you want, and are your needs being met.