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Chasing Rainbows

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pursuinghappiness · 31/07/2014 17:38

I haven't posted on here much in the last six months but I thought I would post an update of how things are with me as, to be honest with you, I am not sure how I'd have got through the end of last year without the words of wisdom and kindness shown to me here.

I am not sure of any of you remember but I was in a bloody awful relationship for years having come out of a bloody awful marriage before that. It all came to a catastrophic head when I got pregnant (by accident) and my partner washed his hands of me and the baby, admitting to cheating on with a woman from the local pub and I had an abortion 3 weeks before my 40th birthday. It was like something from the Jeremy Kyle Show and the whole experience devastated me.

Anyway, I went away to lick my wounds at New Year when my kids were with their Dad. I did a lot of soul searching while I was away and decided I needed to spend some time on my own, concentrate on my childrena nd my studies and actually make myself happy. All well and good until I met a man while walking my dog in the middle of January...

Six months later my life is unrecognisable from the mess of last year and I am really happy. Despite meeting the new man I have not taken my eye off the ball and have qualified with a Distinction in my profession and will graduate at the beginning of September. I have got a job that I start when the children go back to school and, apart from the day that they go to their Dads, I finish in time to pick them up from school. All is well at home and my kids are much more settled now that my ex is out of our lives.

So far as the new man goes, I am still in a state of shock! It is still early days as we are only 6 months in but everything about the relationship is everything that I wanted my previous relationships to be. I have been completely honest with him from the start about everything that happened; he has encouraged me to go to counselling to work through all the problems I have had in the past. He has made me realise that all the things I wanted are not unreasonable to ask (silly things, like we took the kids away and I was cooking dinner and when I turned round and he was washing up and going crabbing and him interacting with the kids rather than sloping off to the pub). I realise that these things might seem ridiculous but I have learnt to expect to get on with it on my own and it is so nice having an extra pair of hands from someone who wants to be involved and to make me happy).

So, in a nutshell, my 3 years of studying has paid off, family life is ticketyboo and the new man is the cherry on the cake :-)

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pursuinghappiness · 31/07/2014 17:48

Oh, and my ex used to accuse me of chasing rainbows but life is pretty amazing for me right now and so I will continue to do so as settling for shit was not a whole heap of fun!

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