I'm an OC and have never had a great relationship with DM, she's very difficult, likes to be centre of attention, nothing is ever good enough, guilt trips etc...
I understand why she is the way she is and have accepted that I'll never live up to her expecations.
I live 100s of miles away and visit once a month for a long weekend which I can cope with. She's a widow but has plenty of friends and help with housework and gardening.
She's now got cancer, and since diagnosis early this year has been very bitter, despite having had a long healthy life. I've been visiting more regularly forfeiting time with my own family, to support her. I suppose I'm hoping that she'll tell me what a fantastic daughter I am, but so far I'm getting mostly criticism. She seems to think that because she's ill, I shouldn't be able to do anything enjoyable either, not that I've got any time to anyway.
I don't know how to handle the situation. I'm getting increasingly stressed as all I do is work and visit DM, if I felt I was appreciated it would make it easier. I know I'll miss her when she's gone and feel horrible wanting this to be over.
DH is very supportive, but he's pointed out that I'm making a rod for my own back as this situation could
go on for a long time.
What should I do?
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ifuknow · 31/07/2014 17:18
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