I would be very grateful for any help that anyone could give with writing an email to my ex partner asking him to only contact me through a new email address which I will only check once a week. And not through my current email and/or text to my current phone.
Long and short of it is that we have a DD and are currently going through financial hearing in court about her. I will need to send and receive emails from him re finances, however I do not want them continuing to be sent to my normal email address as I find them upsetting and am often unprepared for them (he makes bizarre accusations in them to get me hooked into email conversations, or sends me weird emails late at night when he has been drinking.) I basically want to be able to effectively manage contact with him as he is such a major manipulator (and narcissist.)
He also hasn't seen his daughter for 6 months. I've said that he can have supervised access because of his (major) drink and drug issues (and I think, mental health issues), and offered to meet him for this. He turned this down saying that he was 'working' - on a Sunday afternoon. I then suggested a contact centre with him being strip tested for alcohol and drugs (suggested by a solicitor I spoke to about this) and me not being there. He said he strongly objected to this. He's made various claims about going for access through court, but in 6 months has done nothing (apart from send me mocked up applications that he never sends off.) We went to court yesterday about the finances and he didn't even mention wanting to see her to the judge, even though the judge was fairly relaxed about discussing other matters.
I want to also say in the email that should he wish to go for supervised access, I will provide an alternative phone number for use on the supervised access day (IYSWIM) as I don't want him using my current number. But to also make the point that its not my responsibility to get him to want to see his daughter, thats up to him.
I want the email to be polite, but to the point, as I am in no doubt that he'll show it in court in an attempt to prove that I am, I don't know what! He's included a number of my emails to him in paperwork to the court in an attempt to make me look unreasonable (which they don't??!!), so I'd like this to look very reasonable!
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Pinkballoon · 30/07/2014 20:16
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