I live in a rural village with my three year old daughter. I'm self employed and work from home mostly or the odd day anywhere within a 50 mile radius. I moved here when I separated from DD's father because it is close to family. It's also within the catchment area to a very good school Id hoped to send her to next year.
I've been in a relationship with a wonderful man for a year. We love each other and want a future together. He lives in a city about 40 minutes away. He has a daughter the same age as mine and has a job with a fair amount of responsibility in the city and he works long hours.
I lived in this city myself until 2008. I love that place and have always gone back lots to visit friends, do cultural things and also work.
DP and I want to move in together. And hopefully have children together but the question of where we settle is an issue. There isn't really anywhere in between our two homes we would want to live. It's his city or my village.
He is a city boy through and through. He will consider moving in with me but I know he doesn't want to leave his area really.
If it was just me, I would move there tomorrow. I love the place. But I wonder if it is fair to uproot DD. The school wouldn't be as good as the one here. I feel the rural lifestyle is good for her. Her father would be angry if I moved there because of the accent she would probably develop (ridiculous I'm even giving that headspace I know, he's an idiot!!) also we would be further from my family and I wouldn't have their support as readily if we were to have more children.
I feel I want to move there but I think I shouldn't and I wonder if I should be staying put for the sake of my daughter? I want to do what is right for her and not be blinded by what I want to do with my love-life!
I'd love some unbiased opinions
Thanks
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Moving in with new partner, what is best for my dd?
BabySham82 · 29/07/2014 23:59
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