To those of you who are wondering why on earth I'm putting myself through it and are about to advise me that seeing them at all is a mistake and not worth it - you are all right. This probably is a mistake. However, for various reasons it's too late to get out of it so I need help and hand holding right now.
Highly toxic and narcissistic parents, sometimes toxic and agressive sister. DP will be there with me too - he's very supportive and I feel a lot stronger having him in my corner. I'm 4 years in to psychotherapy so have been working on this issue for a long time. Specifically I'm trying to detach emotionally, to see my parents as toddlers (emotionally) and to manage my expectations of them. When this weekend was first arranged, I was feeling ok about it - now I'm having an attack of FOG and feeling weak and tearful. Part of me is still so terribly hurt that my parents are not the parents I would like to have.
If there are any unpleasant comments, I'm planning to remind myself that this is what they do, and to refuse to take any of their guilt or shaming on board. I could also try to take control by changing the subject or leaving the room. Please give me any other advice that has worked/works for you.
I'm so looking forward to next Monday when it will be over. I need to remember this feeling next time I feel I 'should' go and visit them and trust my gut because I really don't think that this is worth it. Thanks
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Seeing toxic family at the weekend and starting to panic - please help me prepare and stay calm
Lottapianos · 29/07/2014 14:08
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