IM new to all this but in so fed up. I met my children's father 12 years ago and im 8 months pregnant problem is he doesn't live with me and makes every excuse not to. He lives with his parents and whilst there the one day i snuck into his room because he always tensed up if i went in there so wanted to see what he is hiding. I was in there all of two mins and i found a bag of weed, loads of porn and condoms. Makes me physically sick. I feel hideous enough being so big. I have told him i don't want a relationship with him anymore. How am i going to cope? I feel like I don't know him. He made out he hated strippers and porn but he clearly doesn't. He knows i have issues with lies but still chooses to do it. He told me it was my fault he had porn because when we split for over a year because he went out every single night i told him if he didn't want to be with me i would move on and start dating. So i went on one date, the person kissed me it didn't feel right and i knew i didn't want anyone else at that point. I told him this and the next day he said he wanted to work it out and be a family so i agreed with it ob the condition he spent more time with me. He didn't but ended up getting me pregnant.. But anyway his excuse was he was angry after so got this porn... But why say he wanted to work it out? I was honest with him? I dint want to be single but if he can lie to my face about this what else is he lying about? I never see him and I've begged him to spend time with me but he is always to tired but can go home and watch porn? He only rings me when he is at work if i ring him at 7 or text, he just ignores it every single time. When he comes to see the children he finds a excuse to shout at me or our son and cant wait to leave. When we found out we were having a daughter i was suggesting names but he said why bother she will be a pissed up slag anyway... I dint understand why he would say that. I've only ever one boyfriend. I know he is verbally abusive to me but he some how twists it to being me. His own mother has told me she doesn't think he will stick around so why do keep giving him chances? I've got no one else and he had told me no one would want a relationship with someone who has 3 kid's... Ifeel worthless but keep thinking maybe this time he has realized how wrong he is.
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8months pregnant in non exsistant relationship
mum2bof31986 · 29/07/2014 03:07
He uses drugs.
He uses porn.
He calls your unborn baby a, "pissed up slag".
He shouts at you and your son.
Do you really need strangers on the internet to tell you what you know? He doesn't love you, care about you or care for you. He's poison and you need rid.
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