I'm a single mum and I do have a lovely dad. He is quite involved in dds life and will sit etc which is lovely. BUT I feel a bit trapped by the situation tbh. Dd dotes on her grandfather ( she even called him dada until we put her right.)
I love my dad but I find him somewhat controlling. He used to tell me off when I diciplined my dd etc. My mum died 3 years ago and he hooked up with his new gf about 5 months afterwards. I've known her for years and she's lovely but tbh I feel a bit wierd about it still.
Her dd is one if my best mates but it has always been quite a competitive relationship ( she went out with 2 of my ex bf many years ago and it hurt me.)
Our dds are quite competitive with each other and my dad is a bit loved up and oblivious.
I guess I feel that I rely on my dad too much. If I had a do then dad and I would have a more healthy relationship but we wind each other up somewhat.
Dd is going to a sports club tomorrow. She likes it but didn't want to go at first. Dad immediately suggested that she go round his as he thinks I shouldn't make her do things she dosnt want to. I know what he means but I insisted she go anyway as I think it's good for her to try new sports and meet other kids and now she is up for it!
How do I establish boundaries? How does one foster good grandparent/ child relationships whilst maintaining ones own sanity?!
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How "involved " should grandparents be?
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superstarheartbreaker · 28/07/2014 22:02
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